Zia Nuray (zianuray) wrote,
Zia Nuray

Getting this ready for the mail:

09 April 2011

The President of the United States
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20500

Dear Mr. President:

I understand from recent news articles that you are reconsidering your stance on same-sex marriage.

May I tell you why I think it is a good idea?

In 2005, I married a man I'd known for about three and a half years, a retired Air Force E-6.

Due to many factors, I was not overly surprised when he told me last year that GAS (Gender Alignment Surgery) was a deep need for him, and asked how I'd feel about having a wife instead of a husband. I love him, I want him to be happy and healthy, and I said so, and we proceeded with getting a psychologist and hormone therapy and, now, the surgical procedures have begun.

[redacted for internet]s health has improved greatly because the stress of pretending every day to be someone she is not has lifted.

We are together, we are remaining together. I am far happier with her than I would be without her -- after all, she's the same person, just in less psychological pain and therefore easier to be around! -- and we are very much still in love.

"In sickness and in health", right? Well, she's been sick for 48 years, and now she's getting healthy.

Her name has been legally changed by the Court; she is now [redacted for internet]. No-one who knew her as a male was shocked by the changes, she's always been female but in the wrong body.

HOWEVER...if she gets her "gender marker" changed, our happy marriage is automatically annulled.

She will always be legally male so that we can remain married, and this distresses me. She says it is OK with her as this allows us to remain married in the eyes of the state, but it upsets me on her behalf.

Please, Mr. President, when the subject comes up, think of us and other families like us.

With deep respect,


[redacted for internet]
Tags: emily, family, medical, military, note to, politics
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