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One of my favorite phrases is "Look it up!" when someone asks me a question that (in my opinion) they should know.  That used to mean getting ott he dictionary - we had one that was 8" thick and larger than the photo album with very small print - or a trip to the library for the encyclopedia or other subject-specific refernece books.

Now it means a few seconds on Google courtesy of the hone that's glued to most people's hand and they STILL can't be bothered!

Thinky-thoughts -- co-living
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I saw this poseted on FB (from another community, and from another before that, likely).  Co-housing/commulnal living SOUNDS good, but there are certain to be some drawbacks as well.  I'm interested in feedback as to YOUR thoughts as to what those might be and how they might be handled.  For instance, one of the big deals is "Oh, more hands to share the work!"

BUT -- what if the person on the rota for doing dishes is sick?  What if the person who is supposed to do the yard work today has to work overtime at their paycheck job or go out of town for it?  Yes, there are other people to step up, but eventually resentment will build, especially if the same people are always stepping up or stepping out.

What if someone loses their source of income?  Or gets hit with huge medical bills?  Does the rest of the household shoulder their share until they are back on their financial feet?  Are they then responsible to pay back the shortfall over time or is it assumed that it will balance out eventually?  What if they can't find another job they can do, or it is months or years until a disability application is approved?  Keep in mind that in a co-housing situation in current-day USA, people may not (most likely won't) be eligible for income-based aid such as SNAP as the HOUSEHOLD income and savings is considered on that.

Is a couple treated as one entity for financial support of the household and two for chores, or some other allocation?

Is financial contribution based on projected expenses / number of people, or expenses / percenage of income for each individual?

If my kid gets into your stuff, how do we handle that?  If one kid is neurotypical and another is neurovariant, how are the expectations for civil behavior different?



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Cyber-currency invite code InitiativeQ
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Initiative Q is an attempt by ex-PayPal guys to create a new payment system instead of credit cards that were designed in the 1950s. The system uses its own currency, the Q, and to get people to start using the system once it's ready they are allocating Qs for free to people that sign up now (the amount drops as more people join - so better to join early). Signing up is free and they only ask for your name and an email address. There's nothing to lose but if this payment system becomes a world leading payment method your Qs can be worth a lot. If you missed getting bitcoin seven years ago, you wouldn't want to miss this.
This link will stop working once I’m out of invites. Let me know after you registered, because I need to verify you on my end.

Irony
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The same book that people swear on says this:
James 5:12
But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.


A long, long time ago
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I keep remembering certain little things from my teens — stuff other people may not even think about or remember, but little stuff I had a lot of fun with and now I miss.

K-Mart had "Lil' Gems" nail polish and cologne — the bottle had a square footprint, and two opposite corners were "sliced off" like facets.  

My absolute favorite red nail polish was one of these, and I've never found a satisfactory replacement.

The colognes had names (and scents) like "Fresh Mown Grass" and smelled like what they were called, and most actually smelled good!

Another thing was sets of 9 glass tubes (now I would call them sample vials) with a wand cap — they would be 9 different blends based on Musk, or on Woods, and you would blend a personal fragrance using a drop of this on your left wrist, a dab of that on your throat. It would be a little different every time.

Coty (brand) had a solid perfume compact with Amber, Sandalwood, and Patchouli. I used up the Sandalwood FAST!

Coty also had a cologne called Masumi.  I used a lot of that one year.


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nov 2014 — wound on ankle appeared.

oct 2018 — finally healed up

Wound was a "venous stasis ulcer" caused by high blood pressure.  I didn't have high blood pressure until I started taking a prescription called "phentermine" for weight loss.

4 years, basically, because I couldn't get approval for WLS (weight loss surgery) until I'd been on a prescription drug for weight loss. 

Fuckers.


#whywedon'treport
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Short answer?  It doesn't do any good.

Long answer?  Waaay too long and nuanced for me to get into.

Anyhow, here's my story if you want to read it.

I did report. My mother slapped me and called me a liar. I told the school counselor and was taken out of the house that evening by police and family members. 

** Police from two counties — the one I was living in and the one my grandparents lived in.

** My maternal grandparents, my stepfather's sister and her husband.

** I went home with the grands and lived there until my majority as a ward of the state.

My brother and sister were taken also and adopted by different families. I've seen them once or twice since then.

** J was adopted by the aforementioned aunt.  He was living there anyhow.

** S was adopted by an unrelated family.  Turns out the father there was a predator also.

I had to testify in court.

**  I DID NOT KNOW WHAT HE HAD DONE WAS A PART OF SEX.  I had to tell the mechanics of it.  "He did this, then this, then he said this, then he did that." I was so freaking scared.  He was right there in the courtroom. Looking back, I don't think it was a trial.  I think it was a custody hearing. 

 Mom TRIED TO KEEP ME IN THE HOUSE WITH THE MAN WHO MOLESTED ME. She tried to keep my sister in the house with the man who said that if I didn't cooperate, he would just go use her instead. I was ten. My sister (his daughter!) was three.


HE DID NOT SPEND A SINGLE HOUR IN CUSTODY. HE LOST NOTHING.

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I'm learning.
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Today I dropped the cereal canister and the lid came off. Cereal all over the rug. Cue the feedback loop of "Stupid, clumsy, not paying attention, wasting food and money (&c.)".

Then a realization hit:  Emily.  What is SHE going to say?

Well, first she will ask if I'm OK.  

Then she will ask if I want her to pick up more cereal.

If I'm still frazzling out about it, she will remind me "That is why it's called an ACCIDENT.  No harm, no blame, let it be."

And I felt better and was able to clean it up without crying and coming apart.

When she got home I was able to tell her about it and I made sure to thank her for helping me "reprogram" my responses.

That's all I was going to post for now.


One more time.... LOL
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